If you want to be powerful and confidence you need to know how your thoughts work. You heard about an inner-voice. Now let’s talk about core beliefs and automatic thoughts.
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Today we’re going to talk about automatic thoughts and core beliefs. Get ready to be wowed. We’re going to rock your socks off.
For those of you who are new here, my name is Lyndsey. And together, with this podcast we talk about concepts and topics that I’ve used to build my confidence so you can build yours.
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Automatic Thought and Core Beliefs
I’m going to give you a visualization to help you get a great grasp of what automatic thoughts and core beliefs are. Think of automatic thoughts as the ingredients in recipe. And then think of the end result of your recipe as your core beliefs. Your brain, your mind, your neurotransmitters, that’s your supermarket where you’re getting your ingredients.
So when you’re born you don’t have any ingredients. You have clean shelves. And then as we grow we fill up our shelves. I don’t know about you but if you’ve ever been to a grocery store where they really don’t have the things that you want, and then you go to another grocery store and you’re like, “yes this is more my style.”
That could be happening in your mind. You could have stuff on the shelves—your automatic thoughts—that are not helping you get to your destination. That are not helping you make that recipe—make that delicious dessert or meal that you are planning.
You could also outgrow certain things. For me as I get older my tastes really expand, and now I find myself going to specialty grocery stores for specialty things. Because I like making Indian food, Mediterranean food, Japanese. And there are different markets for that.
I find myself expanding out. This is the first time I’m using this analogy by the way I hope that it’s helpful.
Automatic Thoughts are Directions
You can also think of it as your automatic thought being a directions list and then the core belief is your destination. So what happens is that you build up these core beliefs throughout your life, and your core beliefs are the beliefs that guide you.
An example of a core belief is someone that’s very religious might think that there is no sex before marriage. And then their automatic thoughts that lead them to that core belief are that they’re not going to have sex before marriage.
That’s the automatic thoughts. They’re just not going to do it. That’s not something that they do. And they will likely date people who are doing the same thing, or they will tell people that they’re dating, “hey this is what I believe.”
An in their mind, their thought is that there is no sex before marriage. A person who doesn’t believe that won’t have those automatic thoughts.
Core Beliefs are the Destination
If you have a core belief that you are not enough, and we talked about this yesterday and the day before—about enough-ness.
If you have the core belief that you are not enough, then you are going to pick the ingredients (you were going to get the directions) that’s going to lead you to that destination. To that dish, desert, whatever it may be.
So think of it like if you feel like you’re not good enough. Then if an opportunity comes and someone asks you, “hey there’s this awesome opportunity.”
You would most likely reject it. Because you would think, “I’m not good enough for that.” It can come out as self-sabotage too. You could sabotage your own efforts. You could work out for 3 days in a row, and you could be eating super healthy, and then you could be losing all this weight, and then out of nowhere you’re just like, “no.”
And then you go on a binge. That can be stemming from the fact that you think that you are not good enough. That your core belief, and then the directions need to get you to that core belief are limiting you.
Core Beliefs Can Be Limiting Beliefs
We talked about limiting beliefs. It would be a limiting, core belief, because it’s limiting you. So think of it as you having directions that are from 1999. You print out MapQuest directions and you’re taping them to your dashboard.
I used to write them on post it notes and then put them on my steering wheel. I love that! But you’re doing that from like 1999. There are new highways, there are new roads. But you’re taking these old highways, these old roads.
Then you’re reading them off a dashboard. You just had to print them out when what you could do is have them on your phone or even built into your car.
It would be like cooking with expired ingredients. Do you want to eat an old, moldy hamburger? Or do you want to eat a filet mignon?
For the vegans and vegetarians out there, I’m sorry I should not have used that reference. Do you want to eat some plain kale? Or do you wanna have an awesome salad with beets—and I’m not a vegan so I I’m trying to think of the food—but I feel like you know where I’m going here.
Challenging Core Beliefs
So just like in the episode with enoughness. When I was talking about how to question if you’re enough. What would be good enough? Why would you not be considered good enough? Do you want to be good enough? When we talk about core beliefs, we want to challenge them if they are not positively impacting our life.
A lot of core beliefs are coming from our environment, and there aren’t a lot of confident people in our environment. Or they could be confident in one area like in work, but then not confident in their self-worth.
That’s why there are a lot of workaholic nowadays. Because people really feel confident in their work. They think as long as I’m working that I’m good enough. No, you’re good enough. Even when you’re not working. Even when you’re just sitting on the couch in your underwear watching TV—maybe a stain on your shirt from the milkshake you just drank.
You are still good enough. I had a chocolate milkshake yesterday. It was so good, I swear I’m going to leave a review and say it should be illegal.
Focus on Core Beliefs for Self-Empowerment
So I really want you to focus on what you think your core beliefs are, and what ones are holding you back. And then what directions are you giving yourself? What ingredients are you giving yourself to get to that belief, and how you can challenge that, how you can question that?
I changed a lot of my core beliefs. It is a long process, it is a worthy process, and you are going to grow and build your confidence and your empowerment every single step of the way.
I’m excited for you! You can do this. I can, I am I will.
With that we’re going to end with our I affirming statements. You can say them with me, you do not have to. Whatever makes you feel comfortable. Are you ready?
Have a great day!
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