Marketers in the diet industry will tell you that losing weight is quick and easy. It’s not. Which is why the diet industry has a 95% failure rate.
The trend of “get results at lighting speed” has transgressed into the self-help movement which makes promises it can’t deliver. So a well-intention person who simply wants to lose weight or live a better life is set up for failure before they even start.
Not only are unrealistic expectations regarding results hurting those who are longing for help, it’s normalizing failure and making us think we can’t do something we can. So if you think you can’t keep the weight off or succeed in self-development know that you can.
It’s not you, it’s the false narrative they sold you. And since you deserve to be happy and achieve your goals it is time for a new narrative. If we are going to do weight loss and personal development right, we need to enter a new set of expectations. One of those expectations: boredom.
That’s right, prepare to be b-o-r-e-d.
What is Boredom?
Boredom is an emotion that occurs when we do something that is repetitive, dull or unsatisfying.
Think of when you were a kid and your mom ran into someone at the grocery store. As she talked for 20 minutes in the canned food aisle you likely felt dread or you thought about all the other things you’d rather be doing which left you feeling anxious.
Or think of a job that requires you to do the same task repeatedly—it’s boring right?
Boredom comes when we do not feel challenged. Which is why boredom has gotten a bad rep. But boredom isn’t all bad.
Boredom Isn’t Necessarily Bad
Boredom actually has some pretty amazing benefits; it can help you gain self-control (which will help you increase EQ). And it has been scientifically proven to increase creativity, motivation and improve mental health. (Ref)
We’re sold the idea that we constantly need to be entertained and things need to be exciting or we are unsuccessful. But that’s far from the truth. If you’re bored at your job it can push you to get a newer exciting one, or you can accept your job is boring and find excitement in other areas of life.
We’re also taught love and relationships need to be exciting and lively. But finding someone solid who makes you happy, is loyal and you have a routine with can actually be boring (in a great way!).
Things don’t always need to be exciting and loud. There are beautiful feelings and experiences waiting for you in the tranquility and peace that comes with slowness.
Successful Weight Loss & Boredom
When it comes down to it, weight loss and personal development are pretty boring. They’re repetitive. Unfortunately, the diet industry sells weight loss as being glamorous. We see flashy before and after pictures and think “yeah, I want that too!” And they tell us there are exciting “secrets” that will help us keep the weight off.
When people hear I’ve been maintaining a 40 weight loss for eight years (I’m in the 5% success group) they seem very eager to know my “secret.” You’d be shocked at how quickly the conversation falls flat when I say, “consistency, repetition and being OK with being bored.”
Because, again, weight loss is boring (and that’s OK!). I’m currently on a 8 week body recomposition. Meaning, I am working maintain the same weight while gaining muscle and losing fat. My trainer gave me a routine of 3-4 exercises I do 5 days a week.
It can get pretty boring. You might even be bored just reading about it. I’m kinda bored writing about it. But it works so I stick with it. And I know it won’t be boring all the time. I mix it up with Yoga or boxing and change my routine every 8 weeks. And I get excited to see the changes I’ve made by allowing boredom and focusing on the long haul.
Personal development and weight loss take time and repetition. If you stick with it, it works. So ditch the flashy and unrealistic expectations. Stick with the basics and prepared to be bored.
Boredom gets a bad rep but it isn’t always bad. There are amazing benefits to sitting with boredom and allowing yourself to not need constant distraction and excitement.
The great news is that once you work through the initial boredom you’ll settle in and start seeing results. You won’t feel as bored with the same old boring routine, and if you’re like me, you’ll start to love it!
(Seriously, I just go to the gym, follow the same routine and see results. No thinking involved, no brain energy needed. I just zone out and focus on building muscle, which helps me build even more muscle!)
All of this will help you feel confident, empowered and find happiness—which is the entire goal, isn’t it?