This Thought Habit Is a Sign of Low Emotional Intelligence (EQ)

Blaming is a cognitive distortion. Meaning, it’s a thinking style common among those with depression and anxiety. Blaming is when we: think other people are responsible for our emotions; or think outside factors are the cause for our stress/failure/etc.; or take on responsibility for other people’s emotions or things outside of our control. Blaming andContinue reading “This Thought Habit Is a Sign of Low Emotional Intelligence (EQ)”

7 Examples of Emotional Reasoning and 11 Ways It’s Keeping You Stuck

Emotional reasoning is when you determine that how you feel defines reality. So even if you don’t have any proof, you assume something is either true or false because you feel it is. Emotional reasoning is different than intuition or gut instinct. Intuition is a communication from the unconscious mind. Emotional reasoning is the inabilityContinue reading “7 Examples of Emotional Reasoning and 11 Ways It’s Keeping You Stuck”

Want to Rise to a Higher Level of Consciousness? Here’s How

If you want to rise to a higher level of consciousness you need to stop defining yourself by your thoughts and your emotions. Unfortunately, most people currently define themselves by their thoughts and emotions without even realizing it. For example: “I’m angry” or “I feel like it’s true so it must be true.” It’s becomeContinue reading “Want to Rise to a Higher Level of Consciousness? Here’s How”

How Jumping to Conclusions is Keeping You Stuck

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How Jumping to Conclusions is Keeping You Stuck
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Jumping to conclusions is a thinking distortion. It’s when we make assumptions or judgements without knowing all the facts. There are typically two ways that we do this: mind-reading and fortune telling. And the reason we jump to conclusions is because we like to have information. We need it to make decisions and it helpsContinue reading “How Jumping to Conclusions is Keeping You Stuck”

7 Steps to Increase Your Confidence and Self-Love

Labeling is a common thinking distortion. A thinking distortion is when our perception is skewed. So we don’t see reality, we see a spin on reality. And that spin is usually negative. Labeling is negative and wreaks havoc on your mental and emotional well-being. Especially your confidence, self-worth, self-esteem and self-love. Labels keep you stuckContinue reading “7 Steps to Increase Your Confidence and Self-Love”

33+ Examples of All-or-Nothing Thinking

Certain words are associated with all-or-nothing thinking. If you know what they are you can watch out for them and catch yourself when you’re thinking in all-or-nothing terms.

This Popular Book Lauded by Oprah Perpetuates Domestic Abuse. It’s Gotta Go

… why is it even still around? There’s a book from the 80’s called “Getting the Love You Want.” It’s been making the rounds on the self-help circuit and is championed by Oprah (Ref). Oprah sees it as powerful, I see it as taking away power. But the book is counterintuitive to personal growth. It’sContinue reading “This Popular Book Lauded by Oprah Perpetuates Domestic Abuse. It’s Gotta Go”

All-or-Nothing Thinking: What It Is and How to Overcome It

All-or-nothing thinking is a cognitive distortion, meaning it’s a mental mind fuck. And the person your fucking is yourself. But this thinking spreads outward. And negatively impacts every area of your life including work and relationships. Thinking in all-or-nothing terms negatively impacts your mental and emotional well-being. And it’s likely a habit. This type ofContinue reading “All-or-Nothing Thinking: What It Is and How to Overcome It”