This Popular Book Lauded by Oprah Perpetuates Domestic Abuse. It’s Gotta Go

… why is it even still around? There’s a book from the 80’s called “Getting the Love You Want.” It’s been making the rounds on the self-help circuit and is championed by Oprah (Ref). Oprah sees it as powerful, I see it as taking away power. But the book is counterintuitive to personal growth. It’sContinue reading “This Popular Book Lauded by Oprah Perpetuates Domestic Abuse. It’s Gotta Go”

All-or-Nothing Thinking: What It Is and How to Overcome It

All-or-nothing thinking is a thought distortion, meaning it is skewed thinking that gives you a false perception. This skewed thinking spreads outward. And if you’re thinking in all-or-nothing terms it is negatively impacting every area of your life including work and relationships. Thinking in all-or-nothing terms negatively impacts your mental and emotional well-being. And it’sContinue reading “All-or-Nothing Thinking: What It Is and How to Overcome It”

15 Cognitive Distortions, Why They Suck and How to Fix Them

Cognitive distortions and well-being clash. They’re like George W. Bush at a press conference and a Middle Eastern gentleman with a shoe. They just don’t work. So when we think in cognitive distortions, we undermine our mental and emotional well-being. Thankfully, we have the power to fix our mindset and get rid of the distortions.Continue reading “15 Cognitive Distortions, Why They Suck and How to Fix Them”

3 Common Beliefs You Need to Ditch ASAP

Plus, how to change them. A lot of common beliefs are negatively impactful. They encourage distorted thinking and can wreak havoc on our mental and emotional well-being. When we’re aware of the harmful thoughts, we can reframe them to improve our mindset. The first step is spotting the little suckers. Below are 3 common andContinue reading “3 Common Beliefs You Need to Ditch ASAP”

Self-Justification and Cognitive Dissonance Explained Using an Episode of the “Chilling Adventures of Sabrina”

Self-justification leads us down a destructive path. It keep us from growing and improving. It’s terrible energy, and can lead to harmful behaviors. Simply put, it sucks. Self-justification is easy to define (it’s literally when we justify our actions). But it’s not so easy to spot. So to stop this nasty habit, we need toContinue reading “Self-Justification and Cognitive Dissonance Explained Using an Episode of the “Chilling Adventures of Sabrina””

If You Read One Article About Inner-Child Work You Want to Read This One

Inner-child work focuses on childhood experiences to improve emotional and mental well-being. It helps us heal past trauma and uncover why we do the things we do. It’s relatively new and there are different variations. Not just for trauma, inner-child work will benefit anyone who uses it. It can help stop harmful patterns, remove blockersContinue reading “If You Read One Article About Inner-Child Work You Want to Read This One”

Completely Change Your Life With a Growth Mindset (3 Steps)

Growth mindset isn’t an option. It’s a must. That is… unless you enjoy being stuck and miserable. A growth mindset is believing you can learn and improve. The opposite is a fixed mindset—believing you’re stuck with your current abilities—how bleak. Unfortunately, society encourages us to have a fixed mindset. We’re told our IQ can’t improve,Continue reading “Completely Change Your Life With a Growth Mindset (3 Steps)”

51 Powerful Failure to Success Quotes

Truly successful people failed their way to success. And if we want to be successful, we need to be comfortable with failure. But most of us were never taught how. Below are 50 quotes about failure to help you reframe how you think about failure. Plus a bonus quote from Brené Brown to keep at yourContinue reading “51 Powerful Failure to Success Quotes”

3 “Comparative Thinking Thought Shifts” You Can Make Today to Improve Your Life

What’s a “comparative thinking thought shift”… besides a mouthful? I’m glad you asked! Comparative thinking thought shifts revolve around comparative thinking. And as the name suggests, comparative thinking is when we use comparison to analyze and understand. It’s something that we’ve been doing the majority of our lives. And it’s become so inherent, we mostContinue reading “3 “Comparative Thinking Thought Shifts” You Can Make Today to Improve Your Life”

You’re Not Failing at Mindfulness. 5 Real-Life Examples of Mindfulness to Help You Get Started

Mindfulness is a useful, learned skill that will help anyone who is trying to live their best life. While there are helpful resources available, for the most part, mindfulness is self-taught. It can be confusing, and those who are learning may even think they are doing it wrong and give up. In this article IContinue reading “You’re Not Failing at Mindfulness. 5 Real-Life Examples of Mindfulness to Help You Get Started”