productive shame

(new term) utilizing feelings of shame for personal growth and development. Importance Productive shame is when we acknowledge feelings of shame and then try to understand and work through the thought patterns that form them. While we feel guilt after committing a wrongful act, shame is when we feel guilty for being who we are,…

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Example of Toxic Shame in the US Version of “The Office”

An example of toxic shame can be found in Season 9 Episode 4 of the US version of, The Office titled, “Work Bus”. During the episode the office is being repaired so everyone in the office works on a bus. A side storyline is character Nellie Bertram filling out an application for adoption. Nellie confides…

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toxic shame

(term previously coined by Dr. Silvan Tomkins) feelings of shame that lead someone to conclude they are bad, less than, unworthy, undeserving or unlovable. These feeling may be deep set, long-lasting and negatively affect someone’s core beliefs, automatic thoughts and overall identity. Importance Toxic shame, in a sense, is us being a bully to ourselves.…

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