abusive distorted reality

Abusers see life by a different code – an abusive distorted reality. With this abusive distorted reality abusers feel entitled to a certain life. When they do not receive their perceived entitlement they resort to abuse in order to gain what they feel they deserve.

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productive shame

(new term) utilizing feelings of shame for personal growth and development. Importance Productive shame is when we acknowledge feelings of shame and then try to understand and work through the thought patterns that form them. While we feel guilt after committing a wrongful act, shame is when we feel guilty for being who we are,…

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toxic shame

(term previously coined by Dr. Silvan Tomkins) feelings of shame that lead someone to conclude they are bad, less than, unworthy, undeserving or unlovable. These feeling may be deep set, long-lasting and negatively affect someone’s core beliefs, automatic thoughts and overall identity. Importance Toxic shame, in a sense, is us being a bully to ourselves.…

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